{"id":628,"date":"2021-10-09T15:06:23","date_gmt":"2021-10-09T15:06:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/?p=628"},"modified":"2021-11-28T10:00:51","modified_gmt":"2021-11-28T10:00:51","slug":"friend-of-convenience-signs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Big Signs You Are Just a Friend of Convenience to Someone"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Do you have a friend who asks you for favors a little too often? Or someone who doesn\u2019t show up when you most need them? You could be their friend of convenience, but what does it mean to be one?<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#Friend_of_convenience_definition\" title=\"Friend of convenience definition\">Friend of convenience definition<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#6_signs_you_are_someones_friend_of_convenience_and_dont_realize_it\" title=\"6 signs you are someone\u2019s friend of convenience and don&#8217;t realize it\">6 signs you are someone\u2019s friend of convenience and don&#8217;t realize it<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#1_They_always_seem_to_need_help_or_advice\" title=\"1. They always seem to need help or advice\">1. They always seem to need help or advice<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#2_They_are_always_in_trouble\" title=\"2. They are always in trouble\">2. They are always in trouble<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#3_They_are_not_there_when_you_need_them\" title=\"3. They are not there when you need them\">3. They are not there when you need them<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#4_You_are_not_their_first_option_when_it_comes_to_social_plans\" title=\"4. You are not their first option when it comes to social plans\">4. You are not their first option when it comes to social plans<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#5_They_show_no_interest_in_your_life\" title=\"5. They show no interest in your life\">5. They show no interest in your life<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/friend-of-convenience-signs\/#6_They_may_disappear_for_long_periods_of_time\" title=\"6. They may disappear for long periods of time\">6. They may disappear for long periods of time<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Friend_of_convenience_definition\"><\/span>Friend of convenience definition<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>It is someone you maintain a friendly relationship with only because you find them convenient.<\/p>\n<p>For example, you act friendly with a guy in the office because you know he can help you with a work assignment. Or you spend a Friday night with a friend just because everyone else is busy and you have no one to go out with.<\/p>\n<p>Plain speaking, a friendship of convenience means <em>pretending <\/em>to be someone\u2019s friend in order to use them for your purposes.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_signs_you_are_someones_friend_of_convenience_and_dont_realize_it\"><\/span>6 signs you are someone\u2019s friend of convenience and don&#8217;t realize it<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Now, it can be painful to realize that someone you consider to be your friend is just taking advantage of you. That\u2019s why you need to know the red flags so that you can avoid surrounding yourself with such people.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_They_always_seem_to_need_help_or_advice\"><\/span>1. They always seem to need help or advice<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>The most telling sign that someone uses you as a friend of convenience is that they always need something from you. It can be actual help such as money and favors or emotional support and personal advice.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s natural to expect support from your friend when you are dealing with a problem in your relationship or are going through a tough period in life. But it\u2019s not natural to show up in your friend\u2019s life only when you need their help or advice.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_They_are_always_in_trouble\"><\/span>2. They are always in trouble<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>A friendship of convenience is not only about using someone for material purposes. It goes further than just borrowing money from a person who can\u2019t say no or going out with someone because you know they will pay for the drinks.<\/p>\n<p>It can also mean that you find someone convenient because they can offer you emotional support and good advice. Thus, you may be a great listener, and your supposed friend is using you as a crying shoulder.<\/p>\n<p>There comes a time when you start wondering how it can be that <strong>your friend is always in trouble<\/strong>. Whenever they show up and want to spend time with you, they have some kind of concern or personal drama.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>What an unlucky person<\/em>\u201d, you may think. Don\u2019t fool yourself. In reality, they want to see you only when they need emotional support because this is what you are good at.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_They_are_not_there_when_you_need_them\"><\/span>3. They are not there when you need them<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>A key sign that you are just a friend of convenience to someone is that they are not available when you need their help.<\/p>\n<p>All kinds of healthy relationships, including friendly ones, go both ways. If you are the only person who is willing to offer help and advice, you should think seriously about the nature of this friendship.<\/p>\n<p>You are always there for your friend, and it\u2019s great. But are they available when <em>you<\/em> need them? If someone in your circle doesn\u2019t return your calls and doesn\u2019t reply to your texts when you have a problem to solve, they may <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-have-no-friends\/\">not be your friend at all<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_You_are_not_their_first_option_when_it_comes_to_social_plans\"><\/span>4. You are not their first option when it comes to social plans<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Are you their first option when they are in trouble, but they don\u2019t think about you when they want to have fun? Do you feel like you are your friend\u2019s last option when it comes to social plans?<\/p>\n<p>For example, it\u2019s a Saturday night, and your friend doesn\u2019t reply to your texts. The next day, you scroll down your Facebook feed and see that the night before, he held a party at his place.<\/p>\n<p>Being uninvited to your friends\u2019 social events is a sure way to <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/feeling-left-out-friends-family\/\">feel left out and unwanted<\/a>. It\u2019s especially painful if you always think about them when you plan a social gathering.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, there can be reasons for that, but if you stay out of your friend\u2019s social plans on a regular basis, it\u2019s good food for thought. Maybe they just find you convenient.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_They_show_no_interest_in_your_life\"><\/span>5. They show no interest in your life<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Another huge red flag is that your friend doesn\u2019t show much interest in your life.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s natural to want to open up and share your personal problems and concerns with someone when you believe they are your friend. But when you do, they don\u2019t pay attention. You realize that they are not listening at all.<\/p>\n<p>Your friend just responds with indifferent \u2018<em>uh<\/em>&#8211;<em>huh<\/em>\u2019s and shifts the focus of the conversation to something else as soon as you finish talking. If they never show any interest in talking about you and your life, then most likely, <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/signs-your-friend-doesnt-care-about-you\/\">they don\u2019t really care about you<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_They_may_disappear_for_long_periods_of_time\"><\/span>6. They may disappear for long periods of time<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Finally, if you are someone\u2019s friend of convenience, they don\u2019t care to <strong>be a part of your life<\/strong>. They may disappear for long periods of time and pop up again when they need something.<\/p>\n<p>When they do, they may not even bother to ask how your life has been while they were absent. Instead, this kind of friend drops a meaningless \u201c<em>What\u2019s up<\/em>\u201d and acts as if you spoke just yesterday.<\/p>\n<p>For example, they may suddenly text you because they know you can get them a free pass to the fun social event you are attending next week.<\/p>\n<p>Beware of the friendships of convenience. They are not based on a genuine connection and are just a waste of time. If someone in your social circle fits the bill, it\u2019s a good idea to think about whether you really need them in your life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you have a friend who asks you for favors a little too often? Or someone who doesn\u2019t show up when you most need them? You could be their friend of convenience, but what does it mean to be one? 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