<\/span><\/h3>\nSocial ineptness can make you misunderstand other people\u2019s needs and personal boundaries<\/strong>. You basically don\u2019t feel what they want right now and what they would like you to say or do.<\/p>\nFor example, if you are a socially inept extrovert, you may behave in a too pushy manner<\/strong>, violating others\u2019 boundaries and making them feel uncomfortable. If you are an introvert, you may look too aloof and emotionally detached<\/strong>, so other people pull away because they don\u2019t see a reciprocated interest.<\/p>\nThe same is true about the emotional needs<\/strong> of those around you. For example, if someone is upset and is looking for some emotional support, you may feel awkward and withdraw instead of consoling them. The knowledge of how you are supposed to behave in this or that social situation doesn’t come naturally to you.<\/p>\n<\/span>14. You overanalyze your social performance<\/span><\/h3>\nAfter a social event, you analyze your behavior, words, and overall performance. You recall every awkward thing you said, focus on your mistakes, and blame yourself for being such a weirdo.<\/p>\n
But you also overthink it even before you attend a party or meeting. Your mind gets full with the discouraging pictures of awkward silences, inappropriate questions, and upcoming embarrassment. You visualize how people turn away when you are trying to talk to them and how you finally stay alone \u2013 as always.<\/p>\n
Maybe you secretly dream about a magical transformation into a social butterfly everyone admires and respects. But the harsh reality tells a different story, and every time you try to socialize with other people, your clumsy, socially inept self comes out.<\/p>\n