{"id":451,"date":"2021-07-14T13:43:19","date_gmt":"2021-07-14T13:43:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/?p=451"},"modified":"2021-09-27T14:03:39","modified_gmt":"2021-09-27T14:03:39","slug":"why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018Why Do I Feel Like I Don\u2019t Belong Anywhere?\u2019 7 Basic Reasons"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I never felt like fitting in with other people. As a child and teen, I would typically feel disconnected from my peers, which would stop me from making friends and participating in group activities. It seemed to me as if I was an outsider \u2013 a misfit who was excluded from the joy of human interaction for some unknown reason.<\/p>\n<p>As a result, I often asked myself, \u201c<em>Why do I feel like I don\u2019t belong anywhere<\/em>?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If you can identify with this experience, I\u2019m here to tell you that <em>you are not alone<\/em>. And most importantly, <strong>feeling like you don\u2019t belong anywhere is not always a bad thing<\/strong>. Sometimes, it is an indication of greater perceptiveness and a rare personality.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s explore a few possible things that could be the root of your struggle with a sense of belonging.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#Why_Do_I_Feel_Like_I_Dont_Belong_Anywhere_7_Possible_Explanations\" title=\"Why Do I Feel Like I Don\u2019t Belong Anywhere? 7 Possible Explanations\">Why Do I Feel Like I Don\u2019t Belong Anywhere? 7 Possible Explanations<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#1_You_have_an_emotionally_detached_personality\" title=\"1. You have an emotionally detached personality\">1. You have an emotionally detached personality<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#2_You_are_extremely_introverted\" title=\"2. You are extremely introverted\">2. You are extremely introverted<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#3_You_are_an_empath_or_a_highly_sensitive_person\" title=\"3. You are an empath or a highly sensitive person\">3. You are an empath or a highly sensitive person<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#4_You_are_actually_disconnected_from_yourself_%E2%80%93_not_others\" title=\"4. You are actually disconnected from yourself \u2013 not others\">4. You are actually disconnected from yourself \u2013 not others<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#5_Your_social_circle_lacks_genuine_connections\" title=\"5. Your social circle lacks genuine connections\">5. Your social circle lacks genuine connections<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#6_Your_life_lacks_meaning\" title=\"6. Your life lacks meaning\">6. Your life lacks meaning<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-feel-like-i-dont-belong-anywhere\/#7_You_are_a_non-conformist\" title=\"7. You are a non-conformist\">7. You are a non-conformist<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Do_I_Feel_Like_I_Dont_Belong_Anywhere_7_Possible_Explanations\"><\/span>Why Do I Feel Like I Don\u2019t Belong Anywhere? 7 Possible Explanations<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_You_have_an_emotionally_detached_personality\"><\/span>1. You have an emotionally detached personality<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Emotional detachment doesn\u2019t let us enjoy the connection with other human beings. A person with this trait struggles to open up and show their emotions to others. They may find it difficult to empathize and relate to other people too.<\/p>\n<p>If you have an emotionally detached personality, however, it doesn&#8217;t mean that you are cold-blooded and unfeeling. Sometimes, it just means that you keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself. You might actually feel everything deeply, but you hate to show it and expose your vulnerability to others.<\/p>\n<p>When you are overly guarded and emotionally detached, you may end up feeling like a stranger among people, which doesn\u2019t let you embrace the sense of belonging. Since you find it difficult to relate and connect to other people, you may feel like you don\u2019t belong anywhere.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_You_are_extremely_introverted\"><\/span>2. You are extremely introverted<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>The same is true about those with <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/personality\/signs-of-an-introvert\/\">extremely introverted personalities<\/a>. These loners are too focused on their inner worlds and have a very low need for social interaction. They prefer their own company and tend to not be skillful at establishing contact with others.<\/p>\n<p>As a loner, you are happy with having just one or two friends or even none of them \u2013 maybe your social circle consists of your family members alone. However, from time to time, you may still feel like you don\u2019t belong anywhere because <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-have-no-friends\/\">you have no friends and no social life<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>This happens because we are conditioned to have a particular idea of what being a \u201cnormal person\u201d means. It is someone who wants to make friends, be popular and successful, get a job, start a family, etc. All these patterns are imposed on us by society starting from a very young age.<\/p>\n<p>When you are uninterested in chasing these things, you may start <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/feeling-like-an-outsider\/\">feeling like an outsider<\/a> and weirdo who doesn\u2019t fit in with other people and doesn\u2019t belong in society. The key to dealing with this emotional state as a loner is to feel comfortable in your own skin.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_You_are_an_empath_or_a_highly_sensitive_person\"><\/span>3. You are an empath or a highly sensitive person<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Empaths and highly sensitive people are more prone to feelings of isolation and emotional alienation. It may sound paradoxical at first, given that these people have an increased level of empathy and sensitivity towards other human beings.<\/p>\n<p>However, these traits also make them more susceptible to<strong> emotional overwhelm<\/strong>, which leads them to seek solitude and isolation. Empaths and HSPs instinctively try to limit other people\u2019s impact on their emotional well-being and often end up withdrawing from social situations.<\/p>\n<p>As a result, they may misinterpret their need for emotional rejuvenation and mistake it for social alienation. That\u2019s why so many empaths and HSPs don\u2019t feel like they belong anywhere and don\u2019t fit in with other people.<\/p>\n<p>There is one more side to the alienation of these personality types. Due to their sensitive nature, they tend to take things personally and get hurt because of someone else\u2019s suffering. They may get deeply sad when they hear news about wars, crime, and social injustice.<\/p>\n<p>An empath or a highly sensitive person may wonder why people are so evil, selfish, and greedy. When thinking about the flaws of human nature as well as those of the social and political systems, they might feel alienated from humanity as a whole.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_You_are_actually_disconnected_from_yourself_%E2%80%93_not_others\"><\/span>4. You are actually disconnected from yourself \u2013 not others<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s not always our connection with other people that is to blame. Sometimes, we feel like we don\u2019t belong anywhere because we are disconnected from ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you don\u2019t know who you are and feel lost in life. Maybe you are chasing someone else\u2019s goals and have forgotten about your own aspirations. Are you trying too hard to please your parents, boss, or spouse, doing what they want you to do and not what is best for you?<\/p>\n<p>You could <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/not-feeling-good-enough\/\">have low self-esteem<\/a> and mental illness such as social anxiety that impairs your self-image. Maybe you just don\u2019t know what you want from life and this is why you feel like you have no place in this world and belong nowhere.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Your_social_circle_lacks_genuine_connections\"><\/span>5. Your social circle lacks genuine connections<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>You may have a social life and a circle of friends and acquaintances. But deep inside, you know that something is missing. You know that this <em>something<\/em> is what makes you feel like you don\u2019t belong anywhere.<\/p>\n<p>It could be that all your friendships are superficial and you are surrounded by the wrong people. You can\u2019t open up to them and discuss your personal problems. They don\u2019t look interested when you talk about your life and are not there when you need their help.<\/p>\n<p>Some hidden part of you already knows that <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/signs-your-friend-doesnt-care-about-you\/\">these people don\u2019t really care about you<\/a> and are not to be relied on in times of hardships. This translates into the vague feeling like you don\u2019t belong anywhere.<\/p>\n<p>Through this frustrating emotional state, your subconscious mind is trying to reach you out so that you finally see the truth.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Your_life_lacks_meaning\"><\/span>6. Your life lacks meaning<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Do you feel stuck in a root? Like you have nothing to get up for in the morning and your life is going nowhere? Maybe you are living a life that looks like an endless Groundhog Day, where you relive the same day over and over again.<\/p>\n<p>A lack of meaning can also leave you feeling like you don\u2019t belong anywhere. It\u2019s because you are stuck in a boring routine and feel like everything you do is pointless. Therefore, you are haunted by the feeling like you haven\u2019t found your place in life.<\/p>\n<p>A life of purpose <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC6481914\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">increases your chances<\/a> to be happy and mentally healthy. Engaging in meaningful activities helps you feel more connected to yourself, others, and the world.<\/p>\n<p>Even if your life lacks deep connections with other people, you can still be happy by cultivating a sense of purpose. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC2717555\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Studies show<\/a> that the negative effects of social isolation can be mediated by a positive self-image and a sense of meaning.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, cultivating a sense of purpose can help you develop a sense of belonging.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_You_are_a_non-conformist\"><\/span>7. You are a non-conformist<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>I often feel like I don\u2019t belong anywhere, especially in modern society. I don\u2019t share the values and views it promotes, and this is why I don\u2019t want to be a part of it.<\/p>\n<p>When you realize how much ignorance, greed, and vanity our world has, you inevitably feel like an alien who has no place here. So many deep thinkers and independent personalities, including world-famous authors and scientists, have faced social rejection.<\/p>\n<p>When you don\u2019t conform to society\u2019s values and don\u2019t relate to the majority\u2019s aspirations, you have no choice but to be a misfit. It\u2019s the cost of <strong>remaining loyal to yourself<\/strong>. You choose to follow your own moral code, views of life, and goals instead of those imposed by society.<\/p>\n<p>And even though feeling like you don\u2019t belong anywhere is not a happy experience, it\u2019s an inevitable consequence of being a non-conformist and <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/personality\/deep-thinker-definition-signs\/\">free thinker<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>As you have seen from the above, feeling like you don\u2019t belong is not always a bad thing. This experience may stem from your personality traits and may, in fact, be a sign of higher intelligence and perceptiveness.<\/p>\n<p>If you are feeling like a misfit, maybe you are just more independent and sensitive than the majority of people. Keep this in mind the next time you feel like not belonging anywhere.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I never felt like fitting in with other people. 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