{"id":427,"date":"2021-06-29T13:50:03","date_gmt":"2021-06-29T13:50:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/?p=427"},"modified":"2021-10-16T20:29:57","modified_gmt":"2021-10-16T20:29:57","slug":"no-one-understands-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/no-one-understands-me\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018No One Understands Me\u2019: Why You Are Feeling This Way"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes I feel like no one understands me, not even my family. If you too are prone to feeling misunderstood, there could be a few reasons for that, and not all of them are bad.<\/p>\n<p>Understanding is an elusive human experience. Most people have families, relationships, and friends. Many are lucky to be loved and accepted. But the truth is that very few have known the joy of being truly and fully understood.<\/p>\n<p>Do you regularly feel misunderstood? There could be a few different reasons for that, and we explore them below.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/no-one-understands-me\/#%E2%80%98No_One_Understands_Me_5_Reasons_Why_You_Feel_This_Way\" title=\"\u2018No One Understands Me\u2019: 5 Reasons Why You Feel This Way\">\u2018No One Understands Me\u2019: 5 Reasons Why You Feel This Way<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/no-one-understands-me\/#1_You_may_indeed_be_surrounded_by_the_wrong_people\" title=\"1. You may indeed be surrounded by the wrong people\">1. You may indeed be surrounded by the wrong people<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/no-one-understands-me\/#2_You_may_lack_empathy_or_be_emotionally_immature\" title=\"2. You may lack empathy or be emotionally immature\">2. You may lack empathy or be emotionally immature<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/no-one-understands-me\/#3_You_may_suffer_from_unhealthy_thought_patterns\" title=\"3. You may suffer from unhealthy thought patterns\">3. You may suffer from unhealthy thought patterns<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/no-one-understands-me\/#4_You_are_going_through_a_crisis\" title=\"4. You are going through a crisis\">4. You are going through a crisis<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/no-one-understands-me\/#5_You_may_indeed_be_difficult_to_understand_and_its_not_a_bad_thing_at_all\" title=\"5. You may indeed be difficult to understand, and it\u2019s not a bad thing at all\">5. You may indeed be difficult to understand, and it\u2019s not a bad thing at all<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%E2%80%98No_One_Understands_Me_5_Reasons_Why_You_Feel_This_Way\"><\/span>\u2018No One Understands Me\u2019: 5 Reasons Why You Feel This Way<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_You_may_indeed_be_surrounded_by_the_wrong_people\"><\/span>1. You may indeed be surrounded by the wrong people<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Probably the most obvious reason why you feel like no one understands you is that you are indeed in the wrong company.<\/p>\n<p>When you are surrounded by people who don\u2019t share your interests, views, and, most importantly, values, you don\u2019t get the chance to be truly yourself. You may avoid certain topics because <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-have-no-friends\/\">your friends<\/a> have opposing views or are simply not interested in discussing them.<\/p>\n<p>Even worse is when you want to share your personal problems with your friends or family, but something stops you because you know they won\u2019t understand you. For example, your parents are overly critical, and your friends are busy living their own lives.<\/p>\n<p>This is when you feel painfully alone and misunderstood as you don\u2019t have a person to confide in.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_You_may_lack_empathy_or_be_emotionally_immature\"><\/span>2. You may lack empathy or be emotionally immature<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>The culprit of feeling misunderstood is not always hidden in other people \u2013 sometimes you have to look within.<\/p>\n<p>Empathy and emotional maturity are two qualities that allow us to put ourselves in another person\u2019s shoes. In other words, these traits help us understand someone else\u2019s feelings and experiences.<\/p>\n<p>When you lack empathy or emotional maturity, you find it difficult to see the situation from other people\u2019s perspectives. All you see and feel is the painful experience of being misunderstood.<\/p>\n<p>But in reality, you neglect the fact that those around you may view the situation from a totally different angle, and your feeling of being misunderstood is nothing but an illusion.<\/p>\n<p>For example, you want to take on singing lessons, but your parents refuse to pay for them. You immediately get angry and feel like no one understands you and your aspirations. But the real reason could be as simple as your parents\u2019 financial difficulties.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_You_may_suffer_from_unhealthy_thought_patterns\"><\/span>3. You may suffer from unhealthy thought patterns<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>People who suffer from psychological issues such as <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/not-feeling-good-enough\/\">insecurities<\/a>, irrational fears, automatic negative thoughts, and mental illness are particularly prone to feeling misunderstood. Their issues distort their perception of life.<\/p>\n<p>When I suffered from anxiety, I constantly felt like no one understood me and my everyday struggle. Mental health problems such as anxiety or depression impair your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC5716179\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">brain\u2019s chemistry<\/a>, taking away all those &#8216;happy hormones&#8217; that help us feel connected and loved.<\/p>\n<p>But they also plant irrational negative thoughts into your mind. These thoughts do even more damage as they make you misinterpret other people\u2019s words and behaviors.<\/p>\n<p>You start to be overly cautious, suspicious, and distrustful. You expect the worst from others and have a persistent feeling that no one understands or loves you.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, your feeling of being misunderstood could stem from low self-esteem and unhealthy thought patterns. Some examples of such patterns include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Believing that the world wants to hurt you<\/li>\n<li>Thinking that nothing good ever happens to you<\/li>\n<li>Feeling not good enough or not worthy of love<\/li>\n<li>Believing that all people are indifferent and cold-hearted<\/li>\n<li>Superiority complex when you believe you are too difficult to understand for mere mortals<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_You_are_going_through_a_crisis\"><\/span>4. You are going through a crisis<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>In times of a crisis, you feel like your whole life is falling apart. This can be a personal crisis triggered by a loss or breakup, a mid-life crisis, or even a spiritual crisis.<\/p>\n<p>No matter which type it is, they all have one common feature \u2013 your life ceases to make sense and you begin to reconsider everything.<\/p>\n<p>In the midst of a crisis, you may start to feel like no one understands you and decide to withdraw from your friends and family. It may be difficult to figure out whether this feeling has a real basis or is just a product of your frustration with everything and everyone.<\/p>\n<p>But even though every crisis is a devastating experience, be sure that you will learn important lessons about life. It may open your eyes to the truths you\u2019ve neglected, which will make you a better and wiser person.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_You_may_indeed_be_difficult_to_understand_and_its_not_a_bad_thing_at_all\"><\/span>5. You may indeed be difficult to understand, and it\u2019s not a bad thing at all<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Finally, you might feel misunderstood because some of your personality traits or behaviors indeed don\u2019t make sense to others. And I\u2019m not talking just about wearing weird outfits and having eccentric habits. It may just mean that you indeed differ from the rest.<\/p>\n<p>Many introverts, loners, deep thinkers, and highly sensitive people feel like no one understands them. They don\u2019t fit into this extroverted, loud, materialistic society. And it\u2019s no one\u2019s fault. It\u2019s just the way it works.<\/p>\n<p>People don\u2019t easily accept and understand those who are different from them. It\u2019s natural to feel more connected to those who have something in common with us.<\/p>\n<p>When a person\u2019s behaviors, views, or values are opposing everyone else\u2019s, it makes perfect sense why no one understands them.<\/p>\n<p>Thus, if you are one of those misunderstood introverts and deep thinkers, make peace with this feeling. Accepting the fact that you are difficult to understand is not the same as having the illusion of superiority.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t believe to be better than everyone else \u2013 you know you are different, and it\u2019s fine. After all, ultimate understanding is unreachable since everyone views life from their own unique perspective.<\/p>\n<p>This is what I remind myself of when I feel like no one understands me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes I feel like no one understands me, not even my family. If you too are prone to feeling misunderstood, there could be a few reasons for that, and not all of them are bad. 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