{"id":1151,"date":"2022-12-05T11:33:58","date_gmt":"2022-12-05T11:33:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/?p=1151"},"modified":"2022-12-27T12:40:01","modified_gmt":"2022-12-27T12:40:01","slug":"negative-self-talk-examples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/negative-self-talk-examples\/","title":{"rendered":"70 Negative Self-Talk Examples That Kill Your Self-Esteem"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The way we talk to ourselves plays a huge role in our overall wellbeing. Whatever situation we face in life, our inner voice is what forms our perception of it. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to be aware of negative self-talk examples to make sure you tame your inner critic before it takes over your life.<\/p>\n<p>When your inner voice is overly critical, it\u2019s easy to feel discouraged and inadequate after the slightest mistake. With this kind of thinking, it\u2019s nearly impossible to move forward in life and be a happy and confident person.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, unhealthy self-criticism needs to be addressed, and recognizing self-deprecating thoughts is the first step.<\/p>\n<p>Below are some examples of negative self-talk. If you regularly make these kinds of thoughts, you need to deal with your inner critic.<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #222222;color:#222222\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/negative-self-talk-examples\/#Why_Negative_Self-Talk_Is_Dangerous_and_Where_It_Comes_from\" title=\"Why Negative Self-Talk Is Dangerous and Where It Comes from\">Why Negative Self-Talk Is Dangerous and Where It Comes from<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/negative-self-talk-examples\/#70_Negative_Self-Talk_Examples\" title=\"70 Negative Self-Talk Examples\">70 Negative Self-Talk Examples<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/negative-self-talk-examples\/#Success_and_failure\" title=\"Success and failure\">Success and failure<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/negative-self-talk-examples\/#Relationships_with_other_people\" title=\"Relationships with other people\">Relationships with other people<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/negative-self-talk-examples\/#Self-perception\" title=\"Self-perception\">Self-perception<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Negative_Self-Talk_Is_Dangerous_and_Where_It_Comes_from\"><\/span>Why Negative Self-Talk Is Dangerous and Where It Comes from<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Persistent self-criticism goes hand in hand with low self-esteem. But it can also stem from unhealthy perfectionism and a number of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC7081790\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">mental disorders<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Typically, this toxic mental habit takes its roots from your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/301482013_Parental_criticism_self-criticism_and_their_relation_to_depressive_mood_An_exploratory_study_among_a_non-clinical_population\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">childhood<\/a> or some negative experience from your past, such as being in a relationship with a verbally abusive person.<\/p>\n<p>If you grew up with <a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/personality\/judgemental-people-traits\/\">critical parents<\/a>, you would hear derogatory remarks every now and then. After years, your parents\u2019 words formed into your inner critic, which pops up every time you feel discontent with yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Pay attention to your negative self-talk\u2013you will find out that your inner critic repeats the same words and phrases your parents used to say when you were a kid.<\/p>\n<p>While it\u2019s natural to feel bad about yourself when you fail or make the wrong decision, it\u2019s not healthy if you constantly talk to yourself in a negative manner.<\/p>\n<p>Do you beat yourself up for the smallest mistake? Do you dwell on it for hours or days? Are you more focused on your flaws, which makes you neglect your positive qualities? Do you use offensive language and harsh criticism when you talk to yourself?<\/p>\n<p>If this is true, then negative self-talk has turned into a chronic habit that ruins your self-esteem, mental wellbeing, and overall satisfaction with life.<\/p>\n<p>When your inner critic is in charge, it\u2019s very difficult to believe in yourself, dare to follow your dreams, and move forward in life.<\/p>\n<p>But most importantly, with this nasty little voice whispering ugly things to your ear all the time, you can\u2019t feel good enough, accomplished, and happy. Whatever you do, your inner critic will always put a fly in the ointment, stopping you from enjoying yourself and your life.<\/p>\n<p>Now, take a look at our list of negative self-talk examples. How many of the below statements sound familiar?<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"70_Negative_Self-Talk_Examples\"><\/span>70 Negative Self-Talk Examples<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-436\" src=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/no-one-understands-me.jpg\" alt=\"no one understands me\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" srcset=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/no-one-understands-me.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/no-one-understands-me-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/no-one-understands-me-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/no-one-understands-me-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Success_and_failure\"><\/span>Success and failure<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<ol>\n<li>I\u2019m a loser.<\/li>\n<li>I never do anything right.<\/li>\n<li>It doesn\u2019t make sense to try. It won\u2019t work out anyway.<\/li>\n<li>I hate my life.<\/li>\n<li>I always fail, whatever I try to do.<\/li>\n<li>Other people of my age already have their own house\/family\/business.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m incapable.<\/li>\n<li>Nothing good ever happens to me.<\/li>\n<li>There is nothing good to expect from life.<\/li>\n<li>Other people are much better at this, so I shouldn\u2019t even try.<\/li>\n<li>Everyone moves forward while I stay behind.<\/li>\n<li>I will never get a promotion\/start a family\/start my own business.<\/li>\n<li>Nothing depends on me anyway, so why try to change something?<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m useless.<\/li>\n<li>All my ideas are nonsense.<\/li>\n<li>I always make the most stupid mistakes.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m too old\/lazy\/incapable for this.<\/li>\n<li>It\u2019s too late for a career change\/finding love\/starting a business.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m a failure.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m stupid.<\/li>\n<li>I will never succeed.<\/li>\n<li>My life is a mess.<\/li>\n<li>I have no luck with anything.<\/li>\n<li>I never learn from my mistakes.<\/li>\n<li>I always make the wrong decisions.<\/li>\n<li>I know I\u2019m not good enough to be happy\/succeed in life.<\/li>\n<li>I don\u2019t have the skills to achieve anything good in life.<\/li>\n<li>Whatever I do doesn\u2019t work out right.<\/li>\n<li>Bad things always happen to me.<\/li>\n<li>I have the worst luck.<\/li>\n<li>My dreams are useless, and I will never make them a reality.<\/li>\n<li>My whole life is a failure story.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Relationships_with_other_people\"><\/span>Relationships with other people<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<ol start=\"33\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-dont-people-like-me\/\">No one likes me<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>I don\u2019t matter.<\/li>\n<li>If I disappeared, no one would notice.<\/li>\n<li>No one cares about me.<\/li>\n<li>My opinion doesn\u2019t matter.<\/li>\n<li>I don\u2019t deserve to be loved.<\/li>\n<li>Who would be interested in a loser\/nerd\/weirdo like me?<\/li>\n<li>I never say the right things.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/signs-someone-doesnt-want-to-be-your-friend\/\">No one wants to be my friend<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>I let everyone down.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m a bad parent\/spouse.<\/li>\n<li>No one has ever loved me.<\/li>\n<li>I always fall in love with the wrong person. Maybe this is what I deserve?<\/li>\n<li>Everyone takes advantage of me.<\/li>\n<li>I attract toxic people.<\/li>\n<li>No one respects me.<\/li>\n<li>Other people always mistreat me because I deserve it.<\/li>\n<li>I annoy everyone.<\/li>\n<li>No one enjoys my company, people just tolerate me.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m a burden to those around me.<\/li>\n<li>No one appreciates what I do.<\/li>\n<li>I lack social skills. I never know how to get on with others.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Self-perception\"><\/span>Self-perception<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<ol start=\"55\">\n<li>I\u2019m not an interesting person.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m insignificant.<\/li>\n<li>What chances do I have with this kind of appearance\/character?<\/li>\n<li>I have nothing worthy of appreciation.<\/li>\n<li>I have too many flaws.<\/li>\n<li>Bob\/Tom\/Steve is such an outgoing\/self-confident\/lucky person. I wish I were more like him.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m worthless.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/feeling-powerless-what-to-do\/\">I\u2019m powerless<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>My feelings don\u2019t matter.<\/li>\n<li>I have no talents.<\/li>\n<li>I hate myself.<\/li>\n<li>It\u2019s all my fault.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m fat\/ugly\/unattractive.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m nobody.<\/li>\n<li>A person like me is bound to fail\/stay single forever\/<a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/communication\/why-do-i-have-no-friends\/\">have no friends<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019m a bad person.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1152\" src=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/negative-self-talk.jpg\" alt=\"negative self-talk\" width=\"800\" height=\"530\" srcset=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/negative-self-talk.jpg 800w, https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/negative-self-talk-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/12\/negative-self-talk-768x509.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you recognize yourself in the negative self-talk examples above, you need to take control of the way you talk to yourself. Just be more aware of your inner monologue and stop yourself when harsh self-criticism sets in.<\/p>\n<p>Then you can start replacing your self-deprecating thoughts with positive statements.<\/p>\n<p>Here are a few guides that can help you out:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/not-feeling-good-enough\/\">Not Feeling Good Enough? 5 Reasons Why You Feel This Way &amp; What to Do<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/feeling-like-a-failure-what-to-do\/\">Feeling Like a Failure? 20 Things to Do If This Is You<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/feeling-defeated-in-life\/\">Feeling Defeated in Life? 6 Core Reasons and How to Cope<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/affirmations-for-confidence-self-esteem\/\">44 Powerful Affirmations for Confidence and Self-Esteem<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/powerofmisfits.com\/mind\/powerful-affirmations-for-success\/\">50 Powerful Affirmations for Success in Life<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The way we talk to ourselves plays a huge role in our overall wellbeing. 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